Lilly Sway

I did say that I read all of the opinions that come after I have decided to share a post and publish it. I will share this one only because I am proud that I can write (at least try to write what I feel). I am not perfect but please realize that I do not profess to be, But if you ask my opinion I will not hold back my prospect of the situation.(you asked for it). If what I say makes no sense or does not apply to you by all means disregard it, but if you learn something at all from a post that I publish, it could possibly be that we are all different people from different parts of the world just trying to give a peek into our world. You may find it useful or insightful or you may hate it so with the freedom afforded anyone online I will keep my opinions in writing and maybe you will or won’t like them. I heard of a new thing the other day that applies to this very situation.  If you don’t like it turn it off!!!!

This is my reply to that particular e-mail.

 Even my worst unimaginable day can be a good day else where in the world.For me the world that I live in and strive is what applies to what and where I live and to those who complain about theirs. While this may not apply to your everyday survival, I can only empathize and pray that things change for others all around the world as well as for your situation. I am saying (if you are to blame) to those who would lie and blame others for their own mistakes, If you are not in that realm well then by all means do not take offense. There are many things all around the world today that have the unfairness, unkindness, atrocities, and inhumanities that you speak of. I shall express my opinion to those who would read it for the validity that it is written for, in the realm of my life and as it applies to someone else in my opinion. To stifle is to oppress, to not acknowledge the grief’s of others is inhumane, and to say  that every opinion or any opinion that does not fit your situation is wrong is to not accept the diversity of our world mine and yours, I take freedom of speech whether in writing or by voice very seriously. If it is not applicable in a different place in this world that does not have the avenues afforded me in this great country I live in, then I can only say that you may choose as you wish to read or not, to agree or not, to then express your feelings FREELY to me. I will not take offense and  I  can only do what I must in my part of the world FREELY and that is to say what I feel.

Food for the Mind,

Lilly sway

I received this through my e-mail and just cut and pasted this so that anyone could have an insight to the topic of the day in my part of the world.

 lillysway.
Your ideas and thoughts might look good to you but may not be good for others.
You are from USA and I am from Pakistan. The living standard, the education and the economic status moulds ideas and thoughts. How I can blame myself when I see people collecting money through corruption and evil methods. The Govt. money which is public money is misappropriated by high ups and the poor are suffering as a result of their deeds. How I can blame myself.
When I see that justice is extended to only rich and high ups and the poor and weak are begging for justice. How I can blame myself.

I myself am fighting a legal battle for a just and right cause, in the court of law for the last 26 years and still the courts have not been able to implement their judgements. As a result of which my children education and their living has been badly affected. How I can blame myself.
When I see around me that influential getting employments through approaches and bribes and the poor sons are not even employed on lowest jobs. How I should blame myself.
Sorry for my harsh expression but I cannot endorse your views in all and every case as it depends on the nature of communities, system of law and level of minds.
Thanks,

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Maybe I will just keep his name

I read all of the comments and can see that there is plenty of dismay throughout the world of today, just as I read that there is joy in people’s lives.  I am hopeful that you who are in need of love comfort, understanding, laughter, or just plain good old fashioned concern can see that you should never place the blame on others, for our failures in life not even our mishaps or indulges  and most assuredly not our triumphs are the fault or what some one else wants. These trials that we go through whether we incurred the situation or not are the outcome of circumstance or choice or indifference. None of us set out to be drug addicts, or users, or abusers to those we care for, or to strangers that we encounter in our life . we make a choice here and there to do what we may think is trivial and then find we have released a full load of trouble or a flood of dismay. I cannot blame anyone for where I am today. I have fed so many people that have crossed my path and to this  day in time I do not regret nor feel used nor do I feel that they took advantage of me. Even if they are not a good person at this time in their life maybe they once were, or will be.

There are many ways for us to blame someone else for what has transpired in our lives but ultimately there is the circumstance that we must endure what is upon us. and become a better person for what is to be. I have been very fortunate to have found the love of my life and there are more times that it went bad, rather than smoothly. Dare I live curled up on the bed to cry and hide from the very thing that I live for.  I am strong of mind but, I know myself that errors in judgment are just finding our way through the muck, or that on occasion I am not always right. (HA Ha Ha We all need humor).  It is with this outlook that you can realize that your losses are sometimes very much your fault. and that when your triumphs are in sight to grab and savor every instant you have them, for these  instances in anyone’s life do pass. People pass on,  lovers leave,  wars happen,  conflicts transpire.

Will you spend your life wallowing in self pity? I hope not, life is for the living and the strong. Make it your mission in life to live it, with a hunger for it, a passion for it. Remember it too will pass, try to dig way down inside and find that joy, take responsibility for yourself and never blame someone for your situation. We all know that it is hard and that sometimes is it futile. I say not, I say no. Take a look at the occurrences in Haiti the strive that those who can help are making, and most importantly look at those who this has happened to. Look with your eyes wide open, help if you can, pray if you do, but be alive feel for those who did not make it, and make the little part of the world you live in count. I believe that we are all here to help in some way or another. People are running to Haiti to help, not turning a blind eye nor are they throwing their hands up with indifference to humanity in need, not in any corner of this world should they. Are you?

Food For The Mind

Lilly Sway

www.lillysway.com

I had this day planned cook a small breakfast, eat and sleep. Just today. I do not ever get to sleep in. Well that was my plan because the temperature was really going to be to cold to be out and about. The night before we were just trying to keep the house warm and the popcorn over the fire was a little over the top, but we had such a real family time that I did not mind the mess. (Well not so much). I had it all planned turn the alarms all off and just wake up when ever I woke up.

The best laid plans just never seem to unfold quite right in this house and today was no exception. I kept hearing the water running through the pipes and so I sat up in bed. I know that there was no one in the shower at 5:AM on a Saturday no way. The first person to leave the house Saturday is my husband, and since he was ill that left no one in my mind to have somewhere to be, just who would be in at that hour on my special sleep in day? ( I did mention to you that I planned it). So I got up and went to turn on the coffee pot and noticed that there was not one light on in the house.

I went towards the bathroom and found it empty and the door was open. I thought I must have been dreaming. I went back to my bed room with the full intention of going back to bed, but I heard the water running still. I then realized  yes it was running and then I began to yell. My thoughts and my panic collided, a water break, a pipe had burst, a frenzy came over me what could possibly have gone wrong, we wrapped the exterior pipes and prepared the house to withstand the frigid night.

Well we thought we had anyway. I was running for a coat my oldest was running for the T, (the tool used to turn off the water main) and my husband was out of the door faster than I. He was  looking left and right for the proof, the pool of water and the damage. and there in the bushes was a squirrel, stuck in between the house and the water spout. It was frozen to the hot water pipe (I guess it was looking for heat). The pipe burst with the pressure of his little body stuck there, he was frozen too. The water went off I guess my son got to the water main and my husband and I buried the squirrel quickly before the kids came out to see the mess.

The pipe that was damaged was a minor repair and my husband managed to fix it quickly and financially painlessly to the cost of under $10.00. I was so grateful that the only way I could show my gratitude for being spared an enormous bill from a plumber, or the water company was to do what I do best. “Cook”, yes I cook when things are bad, I cook when things are good, I cook when someone we know passes on, or when someone we know has a baby. and yes I cook when I want to say that I am grateful.

I cooked a big breakfast with homemade hash browns and sausage I chopped up an onion, a tomato and an avocado, I put scratch biscuits into the oven and made that good old reliable side of beans to go with eggs anyway you would like them. I cooked this big breakfast for my family today, we had gone to the grocers just in-case the freeze would last longer than supposed to. I made banana nut bread, and hot coffee. My children and family members said that it felt as if it were Christmas all over a gain. I just felt so grateful that I made all of the things my family loves to eat today.

A crazy lady is what my husband says I am. He says that I have spent all of the day in the kitchen on the day I was to sleep in. I guess you could say that I was a little crazy, yes you could say that. I say that I was just filled with gratitude today.

Food For The Mind

Lilly’s Way